How to love yourself


FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF FIRST

Self-acceptance and self-love are frequent topics these days, and for good reason. With mental health issues at the forefront, it’s important to recognise the role that loving yourself plays in your happiness.

One of Tony Robbins’ core messages is, “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life” – and that includes your relationship with yourself.

What you put out into the world, gets reflected back to you. So when you love yourself, you receive more love in return. Confidence and joy are appealing traits and by exuding them, you attract others with the same zest for life.

The benefits are clear.  But how can you build your self-love?  Read on to learn 3 key take-outs from Tony Robbins.

1. CHANGE YOUR SELF TALK

As Tony says: “Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy”.

Your inner dialogue affects your emotions, mood and behaviour. Negative thoughts can become an unhealthy pattern and a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s only human to feel down about yourself at times, but the key to self-love is to catch yourself when you start to put yourself down. Then, make a conscious effort to change your narrative.

Shift your focus off the negatives and tell yourself to view things through a positive lens. Once you shift your perspective, you’ll be able to make positivity become your regular vocabulary.

2. ADJUST YOUR PHYSICAL STATE

As human beings, our minds and bodies are intrinsically connected. So your physical state – your posture, breath and movement – have an effect on your emotional state. This is why people who never exercise might feel lethargic and more prone to feeling down about themselves.

When you’re not feeling confident, try to literally adjust your body. Straighten your back and put your shoulders back. Raise your head higher. Smile. Take in deeper breaths. 

You can get your blood pumping by raising your arms above your head, then bringing them down quickly with a purposeful exhale of breath. Repeat this a few times and you’ll wake up your brain to feel more alert, and more ready to face the world. When you feel more confident, you’ll naturally feel more self love.

3. PRACTISE SELF CARE

Loving yourself requires treating yourself kindly, both emotionally and physically. It’s about recognising that you are worthy, no matter where you are in your journey of life.

It’s also about recognising that life is precious, and not to be wasted on feeling like you’re never good enough. Establishing habits of self-care, like eating healthily, exercising, and taking time out to pamper yourself, will train your brain to be respectful towards yourself. 

Ultimately, the key to falling in love with yourself is to create a life you love.  When your life has purpose it becomes so much more enjoyable and meaningful. Be conscious to surround yourself with like-minded, kind people who love you unconditionally – that makes loving yourself easy.

As human beings, our minds and bodies are intrinsically connected. So your physical state – your posture, breath and movement – have an effect on your emotional state. This is why people who never exercise might feel lethargic and more prone to feeling down about themselves.

When you’re not feeling confident, try to literally adjust your body. Straighten your back and put your shoulders back. Raise your head higher. Smile. Take in deeper breaths. 

You can get your blood pumping by raising your arms above your head, then bringing them down quickly with a purposeful exhale of breath. Repeat this a few times and you’ll wake up your brain to feel more alert, and more ready to face the world. When you feel more confident, you’ll naturally feel more self love.