WHY SHOULD YOU BE MORE SELF AWARE?
Becoming self-aware is a process of monitoring and understanding our emotions, thoughts and actions. It requires time, attention and focus. However being able to live in a peak state – or ‘beautiful state’ – is worth the effort.
Becoming more self aware will improve your confidence, as well as your quality of life.
Below are learnings from Tony Robbins, the world’s #1 Life and Business Coach and creator of Unleash the Power Within, on how you can further develop your own self-awareness.
10 WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF AWARENESS
1. UNDERSTAND THE 6 HUMAN NEEDS
All of our decisions are based on one of six human needs: certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth and contribution. Each has different degrees of importance to individuals, so identifying and understanding your top need is fundamental to your self-awareness.
2. ADDRESS YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
The meaning we give to each of the six human needs comes from our past experiences. Any experiences which caused pain or a negative outcome may leave us with limiting beliefs. These affect the way we see ourselves, our abilities, and even how we judge others. Deconstructing these beliefs is essential to finding self-awareness.
3. REFLECT ON YOUR EMOTIONS
Our human needs and limiting beliefs affect our emotions, which affect our thoughts. Our thoughts affect our actions. Suppressing your emotions is a pointless exercise – they will break through eventually. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions, without judgment, is the very definition of self-awareness.
4. TAKE A WALK
Modern lifestyles have us connected almost all day, every day. But you can’t reflect on yourself when you’re constantly engaging with devices. Allow quiet time for yourself, with no distractions. One easy way to eliminate distractions is to take a walk. Walking in nature is proven to reduce anxiety and encourage reflection.
5. WRITE IN A JOURNAL
Another way to take time to reflect and improve self-awareness is writing in a journal. Start by making a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Then address each one with ideas on how to build and improve, and record your intentions for your future.
Mindfulness practices like meditation, yoga and priming (which Tony Robbins does every morning, and demonstrates in his events) can help you be more present and give you time to reflect. It’s also another opportunity to set your intentions.
7. SEEK CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK
To attain self-awareness from an external perspective, you’ll need constructive opinions from others. Ask trusted friends, family and colleagues how you appear to them as a person. Examine how their feedback makes you feel. If you feel like it rings true, then you’re improving your self-awareness.
8. FEED YOUR MIND
Self-aware people purposely seek out new information and perspectives through reading and interactions. Feeding your mind allows you to compare your own thoughts and feelings to someone else’s, and distil your own beliefs.
9. TAKE A PERSONALITY TEST
Psychology based tests can help you gain further insight into your personality and values. If your results seem to match your own views of yourself, then you’re doing well on your journey to peak self-awareness.
10. MAKE IT A HABIT
Many people only begin looking for the definition to the question “What is self-awareness?” when confronted by the concept for the first time, or when things in their life begin to unravel. But there’s no quick path to reach peak self-awareness. Approach it as a habit, not a one-time goal. As humans on our own individual journeys, we are growing and changing every day, and there will always be more to learn about ourselves.